Isn’t it funny that we only do it with rape?
If I was to steal a chocolate bar because it was sitting at the counter looking all tasty, it’d be theft. Nobody would say but oh, look at the creamy picture on the packaging. It was taunting him. He had no choice. It was instinct. Impulse. Drives and desires beyond his control.
If I walked into some person’s home and said I lived there, I’d be arrested. Nobody would say to the owners that they should invest in curtains so that people couldn’t see how nice their house was so easily. Nobody would tell them that they were ‘asking for it’.
And if I beat a guy up because he was a loud mouth I’d be charged. Nobody would say oh but look at him, he’s a dick. He’s got gel in his hair and he’s wearing a shirt that says “How about a nice cup of shut the fuck up”. The dude is a wanker, he got what he deserved. More importantly, even if they did say that, it wouldn’t effect my charges.
But if a woman is wearing a short skirt then it will dramatically sway people’s opinions in a rape case. Was it cut above the knee? Was your waist showing? These are serious questions that will be asked in a court case.
So true. And so Fucked up.
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Why It's Not OK to Hate on Other Women
“Women’s misogynist behaviour towards each other exposes something deep and dark within women’s relationships. Underneath the popular image of women being good at relationships lies a reality that blocks our ability to support, protect and fight for each other. Something is causing women to hate each other, to feel jealous of each other and to tear each other down. Something is teaching women to use the language and weapons of patriarchy against each other…” -Rossje Hasseldine
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I’m classy as fuck.
So, I just got this.
This is in no way educational—it’s some person complaining in my ask. xD If someone wishes to live a ladylike lifestyle, then I hope to God that they aren’t following a set of sexist rules on Tumblr in order to do so.
I stand by what I said. A woman shouldn’t have to follow a set of bullshit rules in order to be deemed ladylike. Being classy has nothing to do with appearance—it’s all about being a kind, generous, and considerate person.
By all means, live how you like—just don’t make rules about how other people should live in order to be a ‘proper’ woman. Because if a woman isn’t a lady, then what is she? It’s common knowledge that woman who aren’t ladylike get looked down upon, and are seen as being ‘less.’ So basically, you can either follow these ‘rules’ or get judged.
I call bullshit.
You say that these rules are for people who wish to live such a lifestyle, and not all women. I feel as if all women are pressured to live like the stereotypical ‘lady,’ as living any other way makes people look down upon you. Woman are supposed to want to live like ‘ladies’ in order to be validated as proper women. If you don’t live in a certain way, then you’re not a lady—you are a ‘bad woman.’ It’s not fun to admit, but it’s true—if you aren’t seen as lady in our society, you aren’t seen as much. And it’s complete shit.
It’s time to start re-defining what being a lady truly is. You don’t need to dress, act, or talk a certain way—you just need to be a strong, accepting, kind, and good person—regardless of your sex/gender.
Here’s the original post, if any of you are curious. :)
RAGE.
Read on and see if you aren’t as disgusted by the sexist and slut-shaming attitudes as I am. I feel sick to my stomach right now.
I had to say something, but now I’m done…I’m not having this fucking argument on someone’s status. (For reference, our town just had a Slut-Walk.)
God, I don’t understand people sometimes.
URGHH
HIS RAINCOAT ANALOGY DOESN’T EVEN MAKE SENSE. WHAT. THE. FUCK.
I’m thankful for the lovely girl who shared in my frustration, at least.
Urgh…people keep replying with more bullshit. I’m obviously the stupid one here. *sarcasm*
Perhaps this is harsh, but I dislike these ‘rules’ for being classy that talk about appearance. So I fixed it with the ever-handy paint program. I like it a lot better now.
But dressing tight enough to show I’m a woman? Um, people don’t need to see my womanly figure if I don’t feel like it. Oh, but I should dress loose enough so people don’t think I’m slutty? **coughcough*slut-shaming**coughcoughh**
Not to mention that girls wearing androgynous clothing is awesome. People wearing any kind of clothing is awesome—feminine, masculine, whatever. Or no clothing at all. ;)
The point is: it’s a dress. My dress. On my body. Don’t judge my worth on what I’m wearing. If I feel like wearing skin-tight dresses or baggy sweats, I will. My clothing doesn’t make me more or less of a lady. I’m an empowered woman with the ability to decide for myself what I feel comfortable wearing.
Hate on me if you want, but people telling me how to dress based on my gender pisses me off.
Have you heard? The gender binary system is shit. People don’t have to be lumped in the male or female gender roles/stereotypes, thank Batman. Anyone can be themselves and act however they want, regardless of the genitalia they were born with! I don’t know about you, but I think that’s awesome. :)
I need to say something everytime I hear a gay, rape, or sexist joke. I’d be doing a disservice to my fellow human beings if I didn’t.
Because by letting people joke about these things, I’m part of the problem. Every sexist, rape, and gay joke is attacking me even if it isn’t directed at me. I’m a woman, I’ve been taken advantage of, and I’m bi. So why haven’t I been standing up for myself and everyone else?
I need to step it up. In my head, I’ve been making up excuses. I need to pick my battles, I’ll alienate people, I live in a conservative town, I’ll lose friends, I’ll cause a big debate, etc etc. I’m so ashamed of myself…I feel sick to my stomach for my lack of action. But, as of now, I’m acknowledging that I need to make a change and I’m going to fucking do it.
The biggest excuse for me not speaking up?
Fear.
So I’m going to stop being afraid of what other people will say. Yes, I’ll probably get insulted, offended and verbally attacked. A lot of my more close-minded friends will be put-off or just plain stop liking me. I can handle it. Being liked is not as important as standing up for what’s right.
I’m not going to sit by and let people spread their ignorance, especially when I know how painful it is to hear. I encourage you to do the same.
Because every sexist joke just perpetuates the idea that women are not equal, and that’s okay. Do you really want you female friends to think less of themselves?
And gay jokes add to the idea that being non-heterosexual is something to be ashamed of and ostracized for. LGBTQ people already get enough hate. One of your friends might be LGBTQ or questioning their sexuality—they need your support and acceptance, not your dumb homophobic jokes.
And when you joke about rape you are keeping the idea that slut-shaming is okay, our rape-culture is normal, and that it’s the victim’s fault. Plus, statistically speaking, one of your friends has been or will be sexually assaulted. We should have to teach how to not get raped, we should be teaching not to rape in the first place.
Think about your friends who, chances are, have been hurt by these jokes too.
When you joke about any of these things, you’re hurting someone. You are taking a serious, painful issue and trivializing it. You are making it okay to be ignorant.
No. Making fun of someone for who they are and what they’ve been through is not fucking okay.
This goes for every offensive joke, not just the ones I mentioned. I plan on speaking up for all people—not just the issues that trouble me personally. I’m simply speaking about these ones because I hear them the most, and they hurt me.
I’m not saying you can’t laugh about things. You can tell the difference between an actually humorous joke and an attack on someone disguised as a joke. Let me put it this way—does the joke support and perpetuate a negative stereotype? Then don’t fucking say it. People have a hard enough time getting through life without you making a shitty one-liner about it.
I’ll say it again: I’m all for humor. Just leave the harmful jokes out of it. Saying these ‘jokes’ aren’t funny. This also applies to “that’s gay.” I could go on about this too, but I think I’ve made my point. Besides, saying these things just makes you sound so unintelligent as it just shows your lack of vocabulary and capacity of thinking for yourself.
