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So I’m doing a video called “The Reinforcement of Homonormativity Using Queer Characters on TV,” and I’m using Modern Family, The New Normal, and Grey’s Anatomy for analysis/video clips/examples.

I’m not familiar with Grey’s, but I wanted to include a same-sex couples of men and women, so I started researching Arizona and Callie. On Callie’s wiki page, there’s this quote “Torres struggles with her bisexuality, and cheats on her with Sloan.”

Subtle biphobia woo! It can’t just be “Torres struggles with her feelings towards Sloan?” Nope, she’s struggling with her bisexuality of course. And it’s my understanding that the character ends up ID’ing as a lesbian…? (I’m having trouble finding that info.) Or at least, she’s apparently perceived as such by 90% of blogs/Tumblr posts/Google results.

Also, if any of y’all are have any insight/video clips/etc on any of the three shows, I’d appreciate it. I’m the most familiar with Modern Family, but I’m sure you all have read posts/seen blogs/have some kind of insight. Thanks!

Tagged: bi, biphobia, homonormativity, bisexuality, any thoughts?, .
9 ♥ 03.05.13

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A gay elite has hijacked queer struggle and positioned their desires as everyone else’s needs— the dominant signs of straight conformity have become the ultimate measures of gay success. Even when the gay rights agenda does include important issues, it does it in a way that consistently prioritizes the most privileged while fucking over everyone else.

I’m using the term “gay rights”, instead of the more popular term of the moment “LGBT rights”, because “LGBT” usually means gay, with lesbian in parentheses, throw out the bisexuals, and put trans on for a little window-dressing. Don’t even think about queers who don’t fit neatly into one of the prevailing categories!

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— ‘That’s Revolting!’ book (via fuckyeahhardfemme)

(via tearingdownthatfence)

Tagged: homonormativity, omg where can I find this book, books to read, .
fuckyeahhardfemme   1371 ♥ 01.08.13

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We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.

Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.

Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.

We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard.

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— Bisexual Manifesto (1990) historic declaration about what it means to be bisexual as defined by members of the bisexual community themselves from the magazine “Anything That Moves”, a literary, journalistic, and topical magazine published in the USA from 1990 to 2002. (via bialogue-group)

(via bisexual-community)

Tagged: LGBTQ, queer history, Bi Pride, Biphobia, Bisexuality, queer studies, gay studies, lgbt studies, queer theory, history, Anything That Moves, Bisexual History, monosexism, cisexism, cishomonormativity, heteronormative, homonormativity, feminist studies, feminism, binarism, .
bialogue-group   723 ♥ 04.23.12

A thought about bisexual “myth busting”

bidyke:

Following this, this and some other conversations.

Reinforcing the notion that we’re “actually normal” isn’t fighting biphobia, but rather something more like a form of bi assimilationism. It does more to harm than benefit us, making bisexuals capitulate to social norms and throwing overboard everyone who doesn’t meet the standard.

What of the many, many people who don’t fit in the standard of the “normal bisexual”, or indeed the “good bisexual”? Some of us are sluts (read: sexually independent women), some of us are just experimenting, some of us like women only sexually, some like to have threesomes and perform bisexuality for men, some are AIDS and STI carriers, some don’t practice safer sex, some of us are indecisive and confused, some of us cheat on our partners, some of us do choose to be bi, and many many more things that the “myth busting” tries to cast off – and those are just the ones who are openly derided by the myth-busting. Bi people of color, bi trans and genderqueer people, bi sex workers, bi homeless people, bi working class people, bi disabled people and many many more bisexual groups are at best neglected by the bi movement if not outright rejected. Are all of those to mire behind while the beautiful, the good and the right run ahead?

A struggle for bisexual rights should be a struggle for everyone’s rights, and if the bisexual movement focuses its efforts only on the tiny group of people who do fit the standard, then something is very wrong indeed.

Tagged: bisexual, bisexuality, bisexuals, biphobia, bisexual stereotypes, bisexual myth busting, homonormativity, gay assimilationism, binormativity, bi assimilationism, queer, radical queer, radical queer politics, bisexual politics, radical bisexual, radical bisexual politics, .
bidyke   27 ♥ 10.10.11