Can you please stop doing the following:
- calling it gay marriage
- saying that [character who has shown attraction to more than one gender] is gay/turned gay/is in a gay relationship
- assuming someone in a same sex relationship is gay, or someone in a different sex relationship is straight
- saying that bisexuals are transphobic or reinforcing the gender binary just by being bisexuals
- defining our sexuality for us
- generally buying into the negative stereotypes about bisexuals
Please do:
- call it same-sex marriage and same-sex relationship
- believe that people really do have the sexual orientation they say they have
- let others define their own sexuality and what it means to them
- be awesome, open-minded people
"I want to be alone, and I want people to notice me — both at the same time." Thom Yorke
Posts tagged Bi Pride.
I made this for everyone that doesn’t want to use the HRC’s logo, but does want show some support/pride/etc. Like I said in my earlier post, I’m not keen on heteronormativity, marriage, or the HRC, but I am keen on the visibility and potential for dialogue that comes along with this particular situation. And I’m keen on queer rights.
Feel free to use the above graphic on your own Tumblr/Facebook/whatever! And challenge people to do more than simply change their profile picture. (Changing profile pic does not equal an actual shift in thought/language/acceptance.)
—Sara
From this great World Pride London 2012 photoset by @BisOfColour.
(via thesunnysideofbeingbi)
Brain dead + some free time + wanting to be productive = some more bi graphics. This one is an A4 poster version of this bisexual manifesto. Download, print and spread around at will.
For a full size download, go to this page.
This is Beautiful (yes, capital b. I meant to do that.) I love it. I feel that way—that’s the feedback I get from my uncle, and I hate it. He doesn’t even know that half the time, when I talk about my bi friends…I add me in too. He just hates on them and I have to keep myself from crying, because he’s one of the people whose opinions matter most to me.
It isn’t my fault I’m this way.
It isn’t your fault he’s this way.
:)
BECAUSE we are not real AND our orientation is only a phase AND we’ll just leave for a member of another sex any day AND our way of loving is only a sign of confusion AND when we haven’t changed in 5 or 10 or 20 or 50 years we are still just confused AND when we’re in a different-sex relationship then we are holding onto “straight privilege” AND when we’re in a same-sex relationship then we’ve finally “come all the way out” AND when we’re in a different-sex relationship we’re really just straight AND when we’re in a same-sex relationship then we’re really gay or lesbian AND when we dare suggesting that we have our own identity we are traitors of the community AND if we identify as bisexual we think there are only two genders AND when we identify as pansexual then we’re simply hipsters AND when we don’t self-define then we’re invisible AND because every historical figure or celebrity who has ever had a same-sex relationship was really gay or lesbian no matter how they may have felt about other genders AND we’re told we can’t make up our minds AND that we’re just attention seekers AND when we’re monogamous then we’re not really bisexual AND when we’re polyamorous then we’re reinforcing stereotypes AND because we want to fuck anything that moves AND because it’s okay to sexually harass us and we’re not allowed to choose or refuse or reject it AND because it’s okay to ask us invasive questions about our sex lives AND because every fuck up about our relationships is attributed to our bisexuality AND because we see personal ads that say “no bisexuals” AND for lots and lots of other reasons, WE ARE PART OF THE BISEXUAL LIBERATION MOVEMENT
(via christineleem)
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We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.
Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.
Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.
We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard.
"— Bisexual Manifesto (1990) historic declaration about what it means to be bisexual as defined by members of the bisexual community themselves from the magazine “Anything That Moves”, a literary, journalistic, and topical magazine published in the USA from 1990 to 2002. (via bialogue-group)
(via bisexual-community)
Show Us the Money: Funding for Bisexual Community Lacking
Fact 1: we bisexual folks make up 50 percent of the LGBQ+ (lesbian, gay, bisexual/other non-monosexual & queer identified — noting that trans*/gender non-nonconforming people also identify as LGBQ + Str8) population
Fact 2: as discussed in Bisexual Invisibility: Impacts and Recommendations compared to [people who identify as] lesbian women/gay men, we tend to have poorer health, (physically and mentally), with higher rates of everything from smoking and alcoholism to depression and suicide attempts [Ed Note: people who identify as bisexual in the USA are also more likely to be female, more likely to be responsible for children, have less access to high-education, less access to well paying jobs, be identified as blue-collar/ethnic/minority, be considered middle-class/lower-middle/lower, etc., etc.]
Fact 3: the total amount given from foundations for bisexual-specific grants from 2008 to 2010 was $0
Why do we as a community keep supporting, donating to and volunteering for Lesbian and Gay Groups that Do THIS to us? DISCUSS! TAKE POSITIVE ACTION!
(via bisexual-community)
On Bi Day, a request to the rest of the lgbtq+ community and allies
Day 1 - Your sexual orientation or gender identity. Be creative in your definition.
I identify as a woman, so I’m going to define my sexual orientation for y’all.
I label myself as bisexual, as said label fits me the best. I hate the whole binary gender description of bisexuals only liking guys and girls, so I prefer to define bisexuality as the attraction to more than one gender. :)
I’ve had both romantic feelings and been attracted to women, men, gender-fluid and genderqueer folk. (I hope I’m using the appropriate terms here! I’m basically just saying that I like people who don’t fit into the gender binary as well.)
Basically, I like who I like. Simple as that.
I went to my first Pride Festival today!! :D The above photo (excuse the crappy quality) is of the band Nervous but Excited and a dancing pickle. I loved all the flags they had on the stage too!
It was one of the happiest places ever. There were so many nice people everywhere! (Not to mention all the dogs :3) Watching the bands/drag shows and just walking around was so much fun. You could just feel the love and acceptance in the air!
The band Nervous but Excited was there, and I got some awesome LGBT buttons from 4plus1! She had a bisexual pride button—words cannot express how excited I was to finally find that! (It’s now adorning my purse, of course.)
So, expect a lot of LGBTQ stuff on your dash from me.
