Can you please stop doing the following:
- calling it gay marriage
- saying that [character who has shown attraction to more than one gender] is gay/turned gay/is in a gay relationship
- assuming someone in a same sex relationship is gay, or someone in a different sex relationship is straight
- saying that bisexuals are transphobic or reinforcing the gender binary just by being bisexuals
- defining our sexuality for us
- generally buying into the negative stereotypes about bisexuals
- call it same-sex marriage and same-sex relationship
- believe that people really do have the sexual orientation they say they have
- let others define their own sexuality and what it means to them
- be awesome, open-minded people
We are tired of being analyzed, defined and represented by people other than ourselves, or worse yet, not considered at all. We are frustrated by the imposed isolation and invisibility that comes from being told or expected to choose either a homosexual or heterosexual identity.
Monosexuality is a heterosexist dictate used to oppress homosexuals and to negate the validity of bisexuality.
Bisexuality is a whole, fluid identity. Do not assume that bisexuality is binary or duogamous in nature: that we have “two” sides or that we must be involved simultaneously with both genders to be fulfilled human beings. In fact, don’t assume that there are only two genders. Do not mistake our fluidity for confusion, irresponsibility, or an inability to commit. Do not equate promiscuity, infidelity, or unsafe sexual behavior with bisexuality. Those are human traits that cross all sexual orientations. Nothing should be assumed about anyone’s sexuality, including your own.
We are angered by those who refuse to accept our existence; our issues; our contributions; our alliances; our voice. It is time for the bisexual voice to be heard."
On Bi Day, a request to the rest of the lgbtq+ community and allies
Day 1 - Your sexual orientation or gender identity. Be creative in your definition.
I identify as a woman, so I’m going to define my sexual orientation for y’all.
I label myself as bisexual, as said label fits me the best. I hate the whole binary gender description of bisexuals only liking guys and girls, so I prefer to define bisexuality as the attraction to more than one gender. :)
I’ve had both romantic feelings and been attracted to women, men, gender-fluid and genderqueer folk. (I hope I’m using the appropriate terms here! I’m basically just saying that I like people who don’t fit into the gender binary as well.)
Basically, I like who I like. Simple as that.